Individual Therapy

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Tips for Dealing With Betrayal

Do:

1. Validate to yourself that you are going through a crisis.
2. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself.
3. Tell yourself that you are not “stupid.”  There is no shame in having trusted someone.
4. Seek support. It is vital to know that you  are not alone. 
5. Talk about it to people you feel safe with.  If you do not have anyone, find a supportive counselor, therapist, or  group.
6. Remind yourself that you will get through this in time.
7. Write in a journal. Let your feelings  out. Express yourself.
8. Write letters but don’t send them. Write  uncensored angry  letters. You have every  right to feel angry. You have every  right to  feel hurt. Write your  heart. Write as much as you need, but  don’t send  anything. This is for you.
9. Keep your daily routine.
10. Exercise.
11. Cry.
12. Spend time alone.
13. Spend time with safe others.
14. Allow yourself to grieve. 

Do not:

1. Seek  revenge. (You can fantasize about it,  but don’t do it!)
2. Act  out violently. This will only hurt you  more.
3. Keep trying  to make the person see your point of view if he or she won't or can't.
4. Involve your children in your anguish, or try to get them to take your  side, if this is a marital issue—even if you are right.
5. Keep trying  to get validation from the person who hurt you.
6. Harm  yourself in any way.